Male/Female Worship Relationships - User Opinions
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Let's guard our lives in this area.
The idea of relationships in the Worship Team is a very delicate one if I may say so.I am convinced that this is a very important topic that you have brought up.You will be surprised how much damage has been done in the worship teams by the relationships that are not approved of by God.
Worship is a great ministry and I believe the devil would really want to kill it where possible because it is one way we really get to experience the goodness and sweetness of God.One of the best things we can do is that we relate as brothers and sisters in a godly manner with the fear of God.As much as is possible we must not accommodate best friendships between two people of the opposite gender as this most of the time I have seen result in the fall of wonderful Worship Leaders.We just need to guard our hearts and let us guard our ministries diligently knowing that one day we shall give an account before HIM.The truth is that we have some lukewarm worship moments at church on Sunday morning simply because there is a "couple" that are not living well.But thanks be unto God for we are not ignorant of the enemy's devices, no weapon that is formed against us shall prosper, and we are more than conquerers through Him, hence we need not fear relating with each other in purity and shunning ANY APPEARANCE OF EVIL as Paul wrote to the Thessalonians.If ever you find your relationship raising people's eye-brows then stop it and spare your reputation.Your reputation is at times the yardstick that some church members use to determine how sincere you are in the ministry you are involved.Let us please guard worship seriously and maintain the brotherly love consistent.God will always grant us the victory.He sure will at all times.
Submitted by: Chishamiso Mudenyanga
Location: Gaborone, Botswana
Date Added: 2004-05-12
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Women Worship Leaders/ Releationships
I have never repiled to anything on the internet but this caught my eye and heart. I felt it necessary to reply.I have been a Worship Leader for the past 15 years. Raised in a Demontional Church, Women were not given titles as preachers but teachers or missionary. We were called to serve on every committee and to be faithful to God and our Leaders. I refered to as the church musician at that time.That was fine! But as time went on... I began to understand the call that God had placed in my heart. I knew it was for far greater purpose than playing the organ and leading song services. BUT God had given me the gift and assigment as a LEADER. Strong in the Governing things in the church/ for order also as a Psalmist. After sharing with my Pastor(my authority) I was given certain liberties and affirmation. So I walked in the area as a Psalmist- flowed Prophectly in worshipand developed in the word. Through all of these years, I have never had to push myself or my anointing. I've never had to try to prove myself- or debate my gender or calling. The bible says that anoting will destroy the yolk of bondage. So those who seem to have had problems with gender etc. were broken- because of the anointing. The bible also declares that your gift will make room for you and bring you before great men. - Because I rely on that, I understand that the steps of the righteous are orded by the Lord. And where God sends me on assignment- where I walk- I walk in authority and power and devine anointing. I can carry myself with intregity around male or female- I can correct in love- I can lead in love- I can worship in love and God honors that. I now serve as an Elder in my church as well as Minister of Music & Fine Arts. I oversee 15 ministries in the area of music & fine arts. My band consist of mostly men. They respect me because I at all respect them. I love and respect their familes and spouses. Any where I have traveled as a Guest Psalmist- I submitt yself to the leadership of that location. I honor the musicians and singers that will serve with me. God anoints us with the Levite anointing and His glory shows up. What am I saying? My Sisters- Let God make your introductions for you- let the anointing speak for itself. Walk in the power and authority of the postion you serve but rule in love- respect and humility. Watch God do the rest.
Submitted by: Sister Renetha
Location: San Antonio, Texas
Date Added: 2004-05-11
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READ 'SYLVIA'S' POST!
'Sylvia', you said everything I was thinking as I was reading the other posts...
We women have flirted for years to get our way!
If we are trying to "prove" that women can lead, then WE are in rebellion...and not ready to lead even if we are asked.
God's word is His Word...
Submit to those who are in authority over you.
When I lead...I am representing the Pastor and Elder's authority. They are the "CEO"...I am merely the Office Manager.
If we keep these thoughts in mind, submission/leadership/cooperation/and improper relationships....will not be a problem.
Submitted by: Carolee
Location: PA.
Date Added: 2004-05-11
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Worship on the Internet
I worship lead in some rooms on the internet in voice chat rooms. I find that quite often men in these rooms are attracted to a woman who is serving the Lord. It has been important to me as a woman who is staying single to make it very clear to them that I can only be a sister to them in the Lord.
I submit to the administrators of each room (whether male or female) before doing as I feel God has asked me and trust that God will put it on the admin's mind that it is ok from Him. If they say no, then I pray and ask God where he would like me to go next. As we worship God and submit to Him, He takes what we offer and touches others with His love. I believe it is relationship with the Father that is true worship and he opens the doors and closes the doors as He sees fit.
Submitted by: jan
Location: Australia
Date Added: 2003-05-29
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Close male/female relationship?too much for me!
My husband is the new worship team leader at our church. There is a woman he's teamed up to meet with and sing with on a regular basis who has been on the worship team for many years and has taken some ownership of the program. (She is a volunteer and she is married) Over the last year we've been at the church, I've become increasingly more uncomfortable with how close my husband has become with this woman as a friend and co-worker. The church leadership is aware of my insecure feelings and is helping us work through this, but wants my husband to continue working with this woman one-on-one every week. This includes brainstorming ideas, picking worship music, practicing together, as well as him being a personal and spiritual guide to her and praying with her alone. The church leadership thinks that if we can find out what might attract them to each other and make sure that we satisfy those needs within our own marriages, there will be no problem. I think it's just not a smart idea to put them into a situation where they might stumble. Does anyone have any insight on this? This just seems so common sense to me, I can't believe that we are looking at possibly leaving the church over this if it doesn't get resolved soon.
Submitted by: Mel
Date Added: 2003-05-07
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No respect for Men.
Maybe someone can help me....
I must confess that I do have a problem with male authority, and submission and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I grew up in a abusive home. My mother's ex-boyfriend of 7 years beat on her all the time. To add to this my biological father never was apart of my life. Now at the age of 22..as I grow in the Lord and find out more and more about myself, I find that these things have affected my view on men. When I gave my heart to a man, he didn't know what to do with it and what does that do to a sista like me...hardens it. Brick walls have been formed to protect it...and unfortunately I became numb...not getting in touch w/ my emotions...and what happens as I grow closer to God...He tells me that all these things is affecting my relationship with Him. Now..I'm in my healing state. Jesus is restoring all that was taken from me. I have my love back, I'm getting my tears back, and I'm getting my heart back...it's a process but I'm getting there. God is faithful and He's sovereign. If He did it for me, and is yet doing it..He'll do it for you. Many of you can relate to my testimony, many of you can't....but touch and agree w/ me that I'll be made whole...and be ready to walk into the divine DESTINY God has for me!
Submitted by: Muffin
Location: St Louis, Illinois
Date Added: 2003-03-09
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Male/Female Relationships
I am a worship leader who works with several male worship leaders. I just finished studying a book by Loren Cunningham entitled "Why Not Women?" (in leadership and ministry) The author is the director and founder of Youth with a Mission and it is co-authored by a gentleman who did his PHD study on women leaders in the Scripture. This work is an excellant resource filled with many other study resources as well as practical suggestions. I am sure of this calling on my life, but honestly have struggled and been frustrated at times by circumstances in the ministry and church. I am growing in confidence as I walk out this role, and this book guided my study greatly. The men leaders in my church I believe are what they know to walk correctly with me in leadership. I have been at it long enough now that the Lord has grown my patience and character and passion for Him. Blessings to each of you. Let me know what you think of this book.
Submitted by: Carla Breinlich
Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
Date Added: 2002-05-14
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The Working Relationship
I believe that many of us have issues with authority in general, and as a result, find it hard to communicate our feelings through whatever expression we use. It it also my experience that this problem does result in not being able to speak what God wants said. This result, to me, does stem from operating out of fear.I am a strong leader but, because of fear from previous experiences, do not take on that role unless I am given clear instructions that this is what is expected of me at the time. For example, I was given the assignment of co-leading a praise song with my Minister of Music. Although I have the ability to hear from the Holy Spirit and move in the direction I believe He desires me to go, out of submission to my authority, and because he leads on a more frequent basis than I, I will not take the initiative to go forth in the power that I know is within me due to fear of making a mistake or doing the wrong thing. Unless I have been given the clarification to "flow with it and go", (although I am out front) I have a tendency to fall in line as the support vocalist and not as the praise/worship leader. As a result, I feel as if I did a disservice to the Lord, my leader, and to God's people. It is my opinion that a simple solution would be to receive clarification from authority what it is expected of you as an individual, as a team member, or even as worship leader for a particular song, service, day, etc. This is something that I believe is necessary for the leader to make clear and to make certain is understood when giving assignments to individuals.
Submitted by: Deonne Ramos
Location: Dallas, TX
Date Added: 2002-05-06
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