Musicians Ego:

You would think in the church, conflict should be a non issue. We are Christians and Christians should not fight or struggle with ego and moral issues. We should approach ministry with a servant’s heart… ready to play as part of the team. Right.

No where in the church are egos bigger than in the music department.(This is excluding the Senior Pastor:) What we have to do is become the watchdogs if you will. We have to first keep our own egos in check and then watch out for others. In most instances it's not a conscious thing. There are really only a few people that I have encountered in the ministry who have abrasive egos. When egos pop up, we have to willing to step in and re-state our purpose and goals. In some cases there may be a parting of the ways. In others there may be a mutual understanding and resolve that only strengthens the team and helps it to grow to higher levels. When egos arise and become a hindrance to our ministries, we have to find loving ways to find resolve. There is no place for egos in worship and the ministry of worship.

Conflict:
If you have served in the church for any length of time, you understand that conflict is inevitable. There are personality differences, jealousies, in some cases immoral situations, struggles for leadership, and more. The question is not will it occur, but when will it occur? How we handle each situation will determine how long we will last in ministry. Most musicians are pacifists. We tend to be easy going and laid back. We don't like to deal with problems and conflict. Just let me make music and I will be alright. Unfortunately, in the church, we don't have that luxury. We are not only musicians but managers. Fortunately I have the support of my Senior Pastor. He expects me to handle things in a firm and gracious manner. He expects me to step in when conflict arises and do what it takes to get things resolved. It's not my favorite part of the job but it is a necessary part.

If we keep the focus on the team and Christ, we should be alright. If we continually communicate to our team the purpose of our ministry, we should be alright. If we continually communicate our philosophies of ministry, worship and music in the church, we will help close the door to personal agendas from others. If we have in writing what we expect, we have an understanding from the start for all who wish to join our ministries.

I encourage you to step in and get tough. Not as a dictator, but a loving, caring, firm leader who has to keep order, set direction, plot and maintain the course, and deal with difficult people and situations. I am forced to be the disciplinarian in our various groups. When things go wrong, I am the one who has to step in and fix it. When someone falls into sin that is dishonoring to God, I am the one who has to confront them and make difficult decisions. When people need a tender nudge, it's my duty to carry it out. If we fail to address these issues, it only gets worse. The team suffers when we allow disruption to occur from within.

Some preventive measures to conflict:
Love your people. Show a genuine interest in them, their families and lives. Spend time with them. When you create a strong team through relationships, it's harder for the enemy to stand against you. There are no Lone Rangers in ministry. When you cast the vision of what you are trying to do, and you bring the team along side you as you lead, then you will find conflict and egos are mere obstacles in the way and not ministry breakers. They can be dealt with easily and with the support of the team. You have the best interest of the team at heart and they will become your support if things get difficult.